Inaugural Face-Off: JerseyBoy's Blind Woman

BulletProofChen: Over the course of several months, JerseyBoy and BulletProofChen will be facing off on important topics of the day. One person will post a topic, while the other will then edit the post and respond to it. Then the smackdowns will continue in the comments area, with all of you free to join in. We'll be covering topics such as "Pork Store Cafe vs. Crepevine", "Trivium vs. Mastodon", and "The Best Bond Movie Ever", just to mention a few.

But we need to start this off right, with a topic near and dear to everyone's hearts, that is: matters of the heart! While no one will claim that I should get back together with my ex (except maybe my ex!), there really is no doubt that JerseyBoy should get back together with his blind ex. I call her the blind ex because he literally blinded her for a few days when he gave her the wrong contact lens solution to use! She eventually recovered full vision.

The simple fact of the matter is that JerseyBoy cannot come up with any legitimate reason why he broke up with BlindGirl. They got along great, she was attractive, she didn't annoy him, etc. He simply didn't feel like committing to her, he needed his space. This would be fine if he was still feeling like a bachelor and just wanted to have fun and not settle down. The problem is, he spends all day complaining about how he can never find the right girl, how he should just marry whoever because he's getting old, how he wants to settle down and have kids, etc. etc.

So clearly there is a disconnect here. On the one hand he complains, but on the other he can't commit. I think he has spent too much time alone, outside of a relationship, and thus he has become calcified in his bachelor ways, too used to being able to do whatever the hell he wants whenever he wants, so much that when a good thing finally comes along, he can't let go of his old-man ways. And thus he will never find the right person. I think he needs to get off his butt, realize that a good relationship means being willing to adjust your own priorities to take into account someone else's wants and desires, and that while that may cause some discomfort in the short term, in the long term it can make the other person realize just how nice it is to have someone there who cares about you and is dedicated to your happiness. It's all about sharing a life together, not about each person doing their own thing.

JerseyBoy, I challenge you to get off your butt and call BlindGirl. Rekindle that magic!!